Monday Musings (special Wednesday edition) 20/06/12
Recently, MJ and I were invited to speak at a married couple’s “date night” in London, Ontario.
Interestingly enough, we had just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary the week before. We decided to put a list of the top ten things we have learned through thirty years of marriage.
So, over the next two weeks, I am going to split the list into two parts and blog our top ten.
(10) “The Power of Co-partnership”
MJ read a good story that pictured marriage as a couple riding a tandem bike. Picture a couple who works together as equals, pedalling toward the same destination. But, like every marriage, someone needs to steer the bike, and be on the lookout for potential danger. The one steering, communicates with the biking partner, making decisions about which way to go and how they can avoid dangers and obstacles.
9) Total Money Makeover
Financial pressures can put undo strain and stress on a marriage relationship. Last Christmas, MJ and I gave our kids David Ramsey’s book “The Total Money Makeover” as one of their gifts. I challenged our kids to read it over the four months that we were away in Africa. To our great thrill, upon our return to Canada, we discovered that not only had they had they read the book, but were already putting the principles of the book into action. In just a short time they are already seeing a positive difference in their personal finances. I recommend you buy the book!!!
8) Don’t impose an unrealistic schedule upon your children
In our travels, we discover parents who are running their children virtually every night of the week to soccer, hockey, dance, language school (you put your own activities in this list).
The Kids Health Organization suggests: “Stress is a function of the demands placed on us and our ability to meet them…stress can affect anyone who feels overwhelmed – even kids…Many kids are too busy to have time to play creatively or relax after school. Kids who complain about all their activities or who refuse to go to them might be overscheduled. Talk with your kids about how they feel about extracurricular activities.”
7) Be open and be real
So much of marriage is based on truth, trust and integrity. Your greatest accountability partner is your spouse. What you watch on television or the internet will be impacted if you know you have to be accountable to your spouse the next morning. As a couple, you need to discuss just how open and accountable you can be, but the less you keep from each other, the more your marriage will move toward health and wholeness.
6) Talk it out
If the three keys to real estate are location…location…location, then I assure you that the three keys to a healthy marriage are communicate…communicate…communicate!!!!! Engage in conversation, avoid preoccupation with other things while you listen, and “do not let the sun go down upon your wrath!”.
Until next Monday (for part 2)…